Ethical Non-Monogamy: Departing a Lover

And coming back again

Relationship Advice Guy


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It’s okay to not know.

It’s okay to be anxious and to think you are going crazy.

It’s okay to get help and seek therapy.

It’s okay to question your beliefs and still love someone.

It’s okay to go slow.

It’s okay to love a person in a million different ways.

I think, in the end, love is about loyalty.

This is what matters the most.

Are you loyal?

Yes, I am, even if we depart and go our separate ways, which sounds like a paradox.

How can you be loyal and depart someone you love?

Love isn’t a possession, there is always allowing a person to be free…

Freedom of the spirit, freedom to change, freedom to sit in confusion and sadness and death and tears. Freedom to depart and come back…

Love is loyalty to a person, even if you or they choose to leave. There are a million reasons to love and only one way to be loyal.

I struggle with the traditional sense of love in the social construct of marriage, but not of loyalty.

I feel loyal to her, always.

She helps me feel content.

She allows me to be anxious.

She lets my fears be spoken.

It’s almost a tangible knowing that she will always be inside my heart.

She sees through my fears and anxieties and stays by my side. She exposes herself just as much as I do.

Even as I depart and come back.



Relationship Advice Guy

Love, dating, and relationship advice for men and women who skew douche (like I do).